Few things to be clear about on my self declared, Welcome To Spring Weekend.
First and foremost, the profile picture you see on FB currently or here, it’s me, for better or worse. I’m just lucky enough to have besties who know where to buy me my perfect shirt.
The mouth that spews my truth and mine alone, it’s me, and I make no apologies.
My choices, are my very own.
My actions, are mine and I stand behind every one.
My family, as dysfunctional, and perfect, and seriously questionable as humans, they are mine, and I would always defend them until the end.
My beliefs, also mine and not to be questioned.
And this picture, my perspective.
I am, like it or not, choosing to live my life in an authentic way that does not allow for others to dictate my path, to apologize for me, or to redirect my efforts, my energy, my ambition, or the things I love.
I have lived a life full of happiness, extreme pain, some wisdom and many failures, and I love and live every single moment of my life with not.one.single.regret.
I will NEVER live a life I feel like I have to answer for. For me, for people who have met me, there are two things: You don’t prefer me (or hate, I get it) or you love me. There is very little grey in the world of Heather. And that, that is something I am not only ok with, I am beyond proud of.
I don’t like mediocrity, and I only strive to be memorable in life. Nothing much more, nothing much less.
Along the way, my parents taught me two things I will never forget, two things instilled in me, one lesson from each.
My mother always told me this: Big things come in small packages, Heather. You might be small, but you are nothing less than the rest and you have big things inside you that sometimes others can’t see.
And my father always said, a bit more aggressively, If you do not think the world of yourself, the best things you can be, the highest opinion of who you are, you cannot expect someone else to think that of you. Do not be ashamed of thinking highly of yourself. If you do not think the highest of yourself, you can never, ever expect any person, any boss, any man, any friend, to think that of you.
And those are the two things that I remember, three decades later, when I need to center myself and remember where I came from, what I believe in, and where I am going next.
Changes in life, redirection, etc, should always be looked upon positively. And when you find a need to be recentered, just look to those who loved you most back when–especially those who loved you when you looked like a carnie, but with no traveling circus family to be had. 🙂